Learn How to Talk Dirty in Bed
Tuesday, February 24th, 2009
Denise B asked:
When it’s time to try those new talking dirty words out in bed, you’re probably going to be anxious. That’s okay! Anything worthwhile is usually nerve-wracking, but remember: You’ve paid attention. You’ve made a point of making more noise in bed. You’re saying little things that aren’t necessarily dirty, but that add to the thrill of the experience. What you are doing now is simply adding another dimension to an already great bedtime romp.
Start off slow, using phrases that titillate, but nothing too hard core. A good way to break into dirty talk is to describe what you want your lover to do to you – or to describe what you’re going to do to him. It isn’t a very long leap from a sultry “I’m going to go down on you” to something much raunchier.
As you say those dirty things, gauge your lover’s reaction. Does his body react as a result? Does it drive him so wild, he just has to have you? Does he talk dirty right back to you, encouraging you to do more? Those are all signs you’re on the right track!
Now that you know your lover is listening, start whispering even naughtier words into his eager ear. Start by ramping up your descriptions. If you said “That feels good” before, now you can tell him exactly what feels good. “I love it when you stroke me there” is a good thing to say, but how to get more creative with it? “I love it when you finger my breast” is a way of telling him exactly where you like to be touched.
See where we are going with this? You are starting with the easier phrases and moving into things that – rightfully so – can make you blush. If they make your partner blush, even better!
What can you think of that would make learning to talk dirty easier? This is the time you can bring in other things into bed with you. A bowl of fresh fruits would prompt you and your lover to talk about the “succulent” flavors and get more original with describing exactly what you plan to do with those delights! You can also reach for your ******** and use it simultaneously, all the while describing what it does to you – or better yet, ask your partner to watch you, and ask him to describe what he sees. The more detail, the better!
Jessie
When it’s time to try those new talking dirty words out in bed, you’re probably going to be anxious. That’s okay! Anything worthwhile is usually nerve-wracking, but remember: You’ve paid attention. You’ve made a point of making more noise in bed. You’re saying little things that aren’t necessarily dirty, but that add to the thrill of the experience. What you are doing now is simply adding another dimension to an already great bedtime romp.
Start off slow, using phrases that titillate, but nothing too hard core. A good way to break into dirty talk is to describe what you want your lover to do to you – or to describe what you’re going to do to him. It isn’t a very long leap from a sultry “I’m going to go down on you” to something much raunchier.
As you say those dirty things, gauge your lover’s reaction. Does his body react as a result? Does it drive him so wild, he just has to have you? Does he talk dirty right back to you, encouraging you to do more? Those are all signs you’re on the right track!
Now that you know your lover is listening, start whispering even naughtier words into his eager ear. Start by ramping up your descriptions. If you said “That feels good” before, now you can tell him exactly what feels good. “I love it when you stroke me there” is a good thing to say, but how to get more creative with it? “I love it when you finger my breast” is a way of telling him exactly where you like to be touched.
See where we are going with this? You are starting with the easier phrases and moving into things that – rightfully so – can make you blush. If they make your partner blush, even better!
What can you think of that would make learning to talk dirty easier? This is the time you can bring in other things into bed with you. A bowl of fresh fruits would prompt you and your lover to talk about the “succulent” flavors and get more original with describing exactly what you plan to do with those delights! You can also reach for your ******** and use it simultaneously, all the while describing what it does to you – or better yet, ask your partner to watch you, and ask him to describe what he sees. The more detail, the better!
Jessie