Duncan Roberts asked:


“How to talk dirty to my boyfriend” is one of the more common questions I get asked these days. Actually, thinking about it - it is THE most common question I get asked these days. Sure seems like a lot of girls want to surprise their guys or, alternatively, a lot of guys are actually speaking up for once and asking for what they want! (The more both partners do that, the better. Asking for what you want and enjoy when making love increases the pleasure for both parties and leads to a deepening of the underlying relationship!)

So why do I get asked about how to talk dirty to a boyfriend?

Well, simply, because I’m good at talking dirty, teaching others how to talk dirty and what to say, that’s why! (Heck, modest ain’t I?)

How to talk dirty to my boyfriend is not, I repeat, not that difficult to do. For some it o=involves getting over a social or parental stigma about using ‘foul’ language - for others it’s about developing the confidence to be able to expose your inner thoughts that much to a lover.

Here’s a couple of things to consider about now.

If you have a boyfriend who’s asked you to talk dirty to him - great, you are very close to success, seriously.

What you say is actually a lot less important than how you say it! Don’t believe me? Well, think back to the last hot guy you saw and talked to for a minute. I’ll bet you a dollar to a cent that you found what he said enticing, flirty and even arousing, not because of what it was he said - but because it was him saying it, because of how he looked when he said it.

That is how your boyfriend will be viewing you when you talk dirty to him. 99% of guys would find it hard to ask their girlfriend to talk this way to them so you are already assured of interest and attention anyway - so go ahead and make it a personal experience for you both.

As you talk dirty to him - and the talk need be nothing more than you describing how something he does to you makes you feel both in your head and in your body - get close. Let him feel the heat of your skin, the closeness of your body. Spray a little (a little, don’t drench the poor guy) of your best scent and maybe wear something alluring and feminine. The mix of sight, smell and sound will drive him nuts - trust me, by the end you could be reciting the Bylaws of your State to him and he’d not notice!

If you have decided to surprise him - then great, you are very close to success, seriously.

Hold on - I said that last time, it can’t be the same again - can it?

Yes, because this time you have taken the lead. That means that your confidence levels are higher and you’ll naturally project yourself, your charms and wants over to him with much more impact and effect.

Again, get close, let the nearness of you and your body cause the first reactions in him. Slowly lean in and whisper to him. Once again, it need be nothing elaborate or detailed, just something that is true and from you - the rest will come naturally.

The hardest part for me is not deciding which cause for the talking dirty is best, it’s working out which of the two is most likely to make your boyfriend explode in a cloudy haze of hormone overload first. On that, experience shows us that both reasons tend to make them explode all too quickly!



Mitchell

wouldn’t you like to know asked:


He had one of those “Palin moments” when asked about his relationship with Liddy. Who still remains unrepentant to this day about the things he have done.

Jamie

Dan Bacon asked:


A lot of men struggle to talk to women they don’t know. Often, until a man is totally comfortable with a woman, he will hide behind standard ‘chit chat’ and emotionally guarded conversation.

However, that strategy ensures that you will be overlooked by most women. Why? Because women love a man who can talk to them, understand them and connect with them - while also being able to add in humor and flirting.

As a man, it is always your responsiblity to lead conversations toward connecting on a deeper level. Here’s a recent example of how I used this approach on a waitress…

I’d already sparked strong attraction with flirting and playful cockiness, so I started to ask some questions to get to know a little more about her. Notice how I make genuine statements to encourage more open and emotional responses from her:

Me: So how was your Saturday?

Her: Not bad, I slept in.

Me: *Laughing quietly, nodding to myself and smiling*…out partying last night?

Her: No I was working here until 3am.

Me: Nice…okay, so tell me - what do you do for fun during the week?

Her: Umm…well, I’m learning two languages.

This is where I switched to a deeper, more meaningful conversation that allowed the waitress and I to connect.

Me: Now that’s interesting…learning one language is hard enough, but two? Geez…I love the idea of learning another language…what languages are you learning?

Her: French and Italian.

Me: Awesome…French is such a **** language and Italian - such rich culture y’know. When I think of Italy I think of tasty, tasty cooking…mmm…so, why did you choose those two languages?

Her: Exactly that! I just love the cultures there…

Me: I can totally relate…I’ve always wanted to learn Japanese because when I think of Japan I think: Quality food, quality technology, quality culture, quality landscapes, quality people…it’s just quality.

She went on to explain her deep feelings behind wanting to learn French and Italian.

Talking From Your Perspective: The conversation technique of ‘talking from your perspective’ is one of the easiest and most effective ways to connect with women on a deep rapport level.

Notice how I talked from my perspective in the previous example. One key aspect to success with this conversatiol technique is to often end it with a question.

Not always, because sometimes a woman will be so interested in the conversation that she will volunteer her commentary without you having to prompt her.

Here are some examples of how to talk to women, by talking from your perspective and ending your comments with a question.

You: I really love the beach on summer nights. Especially that point in the night where people start to feel calmer and more relaxed by the fresh change in the breeze… when it comes in so noticeably after a long, hot day. I love that. Have you ever gone to the beach at that time of night?

Or:

You: I don’t like this restaurant. The chairs here are pretty crappy and those paintings are awful. It’s like this place is stuck in a time warp. I like the food though… I should hire one of the chefs to cook for me.

Or:

You: I reckon bourbon *****… scotch whiskey has a much more refined taste. It dances on your mouth… like a ***** ballerina or something. What’s your favorite drink?

Or:

You (to a male friend): Hey man, you’re late again. I don’t like it when you disrespect my time like that…anyway, let’s go get that coffee. How was your drive over here?

Have you noticed the common element of each example so far? I’ve included the word “I” and I am talking about what I like/dislike/find interesting, etc.

Instead of saying, “This bar is good,” say “I like this bar…the people here are cool.”

Instead of saying, “The weather is nice today,” say “I like this kind of weather. Reminds me of ______”

If you talk from your perspective, you’ll notice that people will open up a lot easier when interacting with you. Why? It shows that you are comfortable expressing yourself and are not talking to them like a stranger would.

Well, I hope you’ve enjoyed this article on how to talk to women. Put some of the techniques into practice and see where it leads you.



Neil

simplyme asked:


No matter what your political convictions are this is an eye opener….

David Letterman, on President Bush. (Surprising)

David Letterman wrote this; it’s the David we don’t often see….

‘As most of you know I am not a President Bush fan, nor have I ever been, but this is not about Bush, it is about us, as Americans, and it seems to hit the mark.’

‘The other day I was reading Newsweek magazine and came across some Poll data I found rather hard to believe. It must be true given the source, right?
The Newsweek poll alleges that 67 percent of Americans are unhappy with the direction the country is headed and 69 percent of the country is unhappy with the performance of the President. In essence 2/3 of the citizenry just ain’t happy and want a change. So being the knuckle dragger I am, I started thinking, ‘What are we so unhappy about?’

A. Is it that we have electricity and running water 24 hours a day, 7 Days a week?

B. Is our unhappiness the result of having air conditioning in the summer and heating in the winter?

C. Could it be that 95.4 percent of these unhappy folks have a job?

D. Maybe it is the ability to walk into a grocery store at any time and see more food in moments than Darfur has seen in the last year?

E. Maybe it is the ability to drive our cars and trucks from the Pacific Ocean to the Atlantic Ocean without having to present identification papers as we move through each state.

F. Or possibly the hundreds of clean and safe motels we would find along the way that can provide temporary shelter?

G. I guess having thousands of restaurants with varying cuisine from around the world is just not good enough either.

H. Or could it be that when we wreck our car, emergency workers show up and provide services to help all and even send a helicopter to take you to the hospital.

I. Perhaps you are one of the 70 percent of Americans who own a home.

J. You may be upset with knowing that in the unfortunate case of a fire, a group of trained firefighters will appear in moments and use top notch equipment to extinguish the flames thus saving you, your family, and your belongings.

K. Or if, while at home watching one of your many flat screen TVs, a burglar or prowler intrudes, an officer equipped with a gun and a bullet-proof vest will come to defend you and your family against attack or loss.

L. This all in the backdrop of a neighborhood free of bombs or militias raping and pillaging the residents. Neighborhoods where 90% of teenagers own cell phones and computers.

M. How about the complete religious, social and political freedoms we enjoy that are the envy of everyone in the world?

Maybe that is what has 67% of you folks unhappy.

Fact is, we are the largest group of ungrateful, spoiled brats the world has ever seen. No wonder the world loves the U.S. , yet has a great disdain for its citizens. They see us for what we are. The most blessed people in the world who do nothing but complain about what we don’t have, and what we **** about the country instead of thanking the good Lord we live here.

I know, I know. What about the president who took us into war and has no plan to get us out? The president who has a measly 31 percent approval rating? Is this the same president who guided the nation in the dark days after 9/11? The president that cut taxes to bring an economy out of recession? Could this be the same guy who has been called every name in the book for succeeding in keeping all the spoiled ungrateful brats safe from terrorist attacks? The commander in chief of an all-volunteer army that is out there defending you and me?

Did you hear how bad the President is on the news or talk show? Did this news affect you so much, make you so unhappy you couldn’t take a look around for yourself and see all the good things and be glad? Think about it…….are you upset at the President because he actually caused you personal pain OR is it because the ‘Media’ told you he was failing to kiss your sorry ungrateful behind every day.

Make no mistake about it. The troops in Iraq and Afghanistan have volunteered to serve, and in many cases may have died for your freedom. There is currently no draft in this country. They didn’t have to go. They are able to refuse to go and end up with either a ”general” discharge, an ‘other than honorable” discharge or, worst case scenario, a ”dishonorable’ discharge after a few days in
the brig.

So why then the flat-out discontentment in the minds of 69 percent of Americans?

Say what you want, but I blame it on the media. If it bleeds it leads and they specialize in bad news. Everybody will watch a car crash with blood and guts. How many will watch kids selling lemonade at the corner? The media knows this and media outlets are for-profit corporations. They offer what sells, and when criticized, try to defend their actions by ‘justifying’ them in one way or another. Just ask why they tried to all

Calvin

hogo05 asked:


Okay now, I absolutely love David Letterman, but my husband were debating who would replace him after he is finished with his stint at the late show host. Who do YOU think would be considered or who would you like to see as the host? (Remember, we’re thinking in like 8+ years from now).

Catherine

Peter Murphy asked:


If you are not much of a talker, you may find that making small talk takes a lot of effort so why would you even bother? The downside to this thinking is that you are limiting yourself to interacting with the people who you already know instead of having the opportunity to broaden your social, professional and personal relationships. It does not matter whether you are a good conversationalist or not. You just need to be polite, nice and knowledgeable enough, try to go out of your way to make small talk and try to feel the other person comfortable while you two are chatting. Here are some easy-to-follow tips on how to make small talk so that you can strike up a casual conversation with someone:

1. Get out of your comfort zone.

If you are the loner type and you’d rather be caught dead than making small talk with a total stranger, you need to bend a little and go out of your way to strike up a casual conversation with someone. Start with a neighbor, a co-worker, a tourist, an elderly - by conversing with the people that you get to see and meet everyday, you would get a feel of how it is to casually chat with someone and develop your conversational skills in the process.

2. Start with something simple.

A friendly “Hello” would go a long way if you want to make small talk. You can follow up this casual greeting by asking the other person about how their day has been so far. A simple and casual comment - even about something obvious is a signal to the other person that you are willing to make small talk and you would like to strike up a casual conversation with them.

3. Listening to what the other person has to say is also part of small talk.

Making small talk is also a two-way street, and you should not be the only one to do all the talking. After making a casual comment about something, try to get the other person to join in the conversation by asking questions. An exchange of words should things going. Listening is also an important part of making small talk. By intently listening, you will give the other person enough confidence to open up to you and give out the impression that you are really interested with what they have to say.

4. Be prepared to introduce general topics as a way to start the conversation.

Neutral topics which are general and not too personal or intrusive include the weather, traffic, current events, work, family, movies, television, funny anecdotes and a lot more. Finding out that you have something in common with another person is another goal of making small talk, and you may just even be surprised at what you can find out about each other. The key to making small talk is to keep the topics varied, casual and interesting. When the tables are turned and the other person is the one who introduces a topic, make an effort to respond by making a comment, giving out your opinion or sharing what you know about the subject.

5. Do not attempt to make small talk and turn it into a long, drawn out conversation that could turn out to be awkward so make your exit gracefully.

One mistake that a lot of people make is trying to extend small talk into an entire conversation. Things tend to take an awkward turn when you actually run out of things to say. That is why you need to be able to recognize when you can gracefully make your exit, say your goodbyes and tell the other person how nice it is to have a chat with them.

With these tips on how to make small talk, you can be prepared and breeze your way through the next time that you find yourself in a social setting where introducing casual conversation is the polite thing to do.



Kathleen