Rhegina Sinozich asked:


Positive self talk can transform your life and that’s no understatement.

Imagine what your life would be like if you had a kid fresh out of college, fired up about the world, fired up about you. Imagine that this kid is going door to door selling YOU! She’s fired up. She thinks you’re the best. She’s full of energy.

And now the best part of this is that she’s really just a little genie sitting on your shoulder talking to you all day long. She doesn’t see your flaws. She doesn’t see your failures. She interprets all those things differently. Life is feeling pretty darned good. That’s the power of positive self talk.

* Your failures aren’t failures anymore; they’re just missed tries.

* Your flaws aren’t flaws anymore; they’re just little quirks that will just change in time.

* Your hopes and dreams are completely realistic and exciting… because after all, you’re the best!

Where can you get one of those little shoulder genies right? Well you can create one.

Positive self talk is unimaginably powerful. Your self talk is like having someone sitting on your shoulder whispering things to you, every day, every year for your entire life. So you really want it to be as positive as possible.

I mean if you were choosing a boss, would you choose one who yelled at you all the time and cut you down? Or one that was supportive and excited about you and your potential?

So here are some simple steps to creating one of those positive self talk genies:

* Take a few days or weeks to listen in. Just notice. Don’t judge yourself. Don’t try to change it, just listen. You can’t change your self talk into positive self talk if you don’t even know what you’re saying to yourself! You might even want to jot down what you’re hearing in a journal.

* After you have a good idea of how you’re treating yourself through your self talk, intend to transform your relationship with yourself into a positive one. Intend that positive self talk is just going to become second nature for you. Intention is powerful and it sets the stage.

* Listen in regularly to your self talk and start interrupting. Even if you can’t counter it with something positive just interrupting is powerful. You can even say something like “I’m not talking like that to myself anymore.” That sends a powerful message to your brain.

* Actively seek out those things in your life and in you that you like and can honestly glow about and love. Get that positive self talk flowing. The catch here is that it really doesn’t matter if you’re talking about yourself or something out in the world. The only caveat is that it’s positive and it feels good.

Pepper yourself positive, every day, in as many ways as you can and before long positive self talk will take root in a major way in your life and your life will flourish and that’s no overstatement.



Heidi

Peter Murphy asked:


We admire those who know how to talk to people, or have the innate ability to easily engage in a conversation even in an unfamiliar gathering. Others believe that some are born with the natural ability to talk to people or they have what they call the gift of the gab. However, the ability to talk or convey ideas whether in a small group or up on stage before a large audience is not an innate ability but an acquired skill. It can be learned, enhanced, and perfected. All you need are the right information and the determination to do it.

Were you disappointed before because you were not born with the gift? Then worry no more and start to learn the skill. To begin with, here are some helpful tips on how to talk to people.

1. Be presentable. You do not need to get the best couturier in town to have you packaged. All you have to do is to be dressed appropriately. It is one way of building your self-confidence and it will help you to act confidently.

2. Keep a pocket full of information. Be up to date with the current events, and keep a mental list of good topics of discussion. These are handy tools to keep you ready to talk to almost anybody.

3. Get yourself centered and focused. This is a basic if we want to establish connection with the person or people we are talking to. Develop the ability to shake off recent events that somehow ruined your day. Take a few minutes if you need to before engaging in any conversation.

4. Be respectful. Respect the feelings, emotions and opinions of others. Everyone has the right to their opinion and it is healthy to agree that we disagree. Let every one have their moment to be heard and sincerely listen to them. That way it would give them a sense of importance.

5. Maintain eye contact. It is one way of showing interest in the person we are talking to. Women, they say, maintain eye contact more than men but men could acquire the skill through practice. Movements or stray thoughts tend to sidetract a person. Be aware of them and learn to ignore them.

6. Listen. Listening is a serious business. It is easy to talk and talk but we defeat the purpose and lose the chance of establishing rapport. There are

situations that are more important where active listening is imperative. You will not miss the cue for your turn if you listen attentively.

7. Establish rapport. It is not an easy thing but sincerity is the key that unlocks the door in establishing rapport. Synchronizing behavior or mimicking the pose, ****** expression, gestures, body language, and tone of voice of the other person are ways of building rapport.

8. Adopt a positive attitude. Make sure your words, tone and gestures are all saying the same thing. Find out what you have in common, or if you seem to have nothing in common, adjust. Try to become the other person for a short time.

9. Always ask an open ended question. This will help the continuous flow of conversation and will help you and the group to keep the encounter alive and flowing with information.

Discovering how to connect with others and employing these strategies will make one successful in talking to people. Talk means to express, exchange ideas by means of spoken words or to convey information or communicate in any way. Take these simple steps and you are sure to make the act of talking to people fascinating and memorable for all. One day someone may come up to you and ask where you learned how to talk to people.



Tammy

mr_rat_666 asked:


Im heading to new york in october from northern ireland. whats the ebst way to get some tickets to the Letter man show?

Harry

Band asked:


I don’t know about you all, but usually Letterman likes to bully people such as John, but I think he couldn’t get much of a word in.

Lillian

rambofm asked:


McCain was supposed to be on the Letterman show the week he so called suspended his campaign to go resolve the economic crunch (the jury is still out on that one). He told Letterman he had to catch a plane and had to cancel. McCain was caught having make up applied to him in order for him to be on another show and give an interview. He is supposed to be on Letterman this Thursday. Your Honest thoughts.

Emma

Joe Below asked:


http://www.overlawyered.com/2005/12/davi…
Of course we all know that it is because of the discriminating Violence Against Women Act in which a woman can get a restraining order on virtually anyone and for any reason with out any sort of evidence and only her word.
I am completly for protecting women from abusers but at what expense should this be done. Should we just give out RO’s like they are candy and regardless of the absurdity of the claims and the lack of substancial evidence.
This is, in fact, the number one tool used by women in divorce in order to remove the father from the childrens lives and then to establish herself as custodial parent through a series of other dirty tricks that the court seems to not only look the other way on, but promote using these tactics.
How can we ensure that we protect women who are truely victims of abuse yet also protect men what are victims of absurd claims based off no evidence?
curious gal: sigh…it is clear you did not read the link…actually it was for the famous David Letterman and it was issued that he had to stay away from her.
Sorry I just realized link does not work. Try this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Restraining_order_abuse
Otherwise just google it

Peggy